The Very Reverend Patrick Malloy is dean, CEO and chief cleric of the Cathedral of Saint John the Divine. He holds a Ph.D. from the University of Notre Dame and previously worked as a parish priest, a university professor, and a seminary dean. Father Malloy led the committee that crafted the Episcopal Church’s rite for blessing same-sex unions which now joins the Book of Common Prayer’s marriage liturgy as a rite for all couples.
If you could give your younger self advice, what would it be?
I was never in denial about being gay. I knew who I was, and so did my rabidly homophobic father, so I paid the price. Those were the days when people were just beginning to speak openly about sexuality of any kind, so I suffered in silence. I wish I could tell my younger self: Trust the people who love you. They will take care of you if you let them.
Is there an LGBTQ+ icon or member of the community that you look up to?
I recently read The Deviant’s War: The Homosexual vs. the United States of America. Frank Kameny is the book’s hero. He died in 2011 after spending his entire life fighting for the rights of LGBTQ+ people, especially civil servants. He was publicly gay when few were, and it meant that he was unemployable, living in near poverty. Still, he did not relent. I doubt that I would have liked him, but I greatly admire him.
What can New York policymakers do to support members of the LGBTQ+ community?
I often tell my partner that I am delighted and amazed at how easy it is to be gay here. LGBTQ+ people are integrated in a way unthinkable in most of the country, especially as policymakers elsewhere are fighting against LGBTQ+ folks. Queer kids from those places flock to NYC for refuge, but they often can’t find it. Our policymakers must make their health, safety, and preparation for adulthood a priority.
Is there anything you are working on that you wish more people knew about?
We at the Cathedral recognized after Dobbs that LGBTQ+ people were in the crosshairs, both figuratively and literally. We had always acknowledged June as Pride month, but last year we filled the month with programming in support of LGBTQ+ rights. This year, our offerings will be even more numerous and rich: theology, liturgy, visual arts, music, and parties. I wish people knew that Christianity is more than what an anti-LGBTQ+ evangelical fringe says it is.